If the parties have children, one of the worst things to do is to try to get them to side with one parent or the other. Parental alienation is one of the factors a court will consider when it comes to a final award of custody. It is always in the best interest of the children for the parents to talk to the children together about what is going on, assuring them that they both love them and will continue to have a family, just a family with a different structure. Getting an appointment for both parents with a good child-oriented mental health professional will in the end benefit the whole family.
Feedback from Clients"The collaborative divorce model ensures that all parties have a chance to make their values and priorities known in a transparent, respectful, and accountable way. As a participant, I found the process to be informative and compassionate, leading to a greater appreciation of all points of view in a much less adversarial environment. Susan (White) gently facilitates this process beginning with negotiation, moving into compromise, and eventually helping the parties involved achieve mutual acceptance in the reconciliation of very difficult financial and personal issues." C